I have a cool job, or as my sixteen year old son would correct me, it is fresh… I get to imagine and  sell amazing love products.  My husband bought in to the concept because he of course gets to be the primary tester.  This is a real perk in a love products company.   I [...]

The scent of desire, it turns out has more to do with our biological imperative than we might have ever imagined. That magical x factor in seeking and connecting to your special someone is actually right under your nose- or at least in it. Author Rachel Herz’s new book The Scent of Desire will be [...]

If you were one of the millions waiting for the last minutes of yesterday’s superbowl, then you saw the million dollar invitation by Victoria’s Secret. A bigger than life beautiful girl, dropping the football and mouthing the words that millions of guys dream of hearing. I have to admit it was tasteful and said what [...]

“You are what you love, not what loves you. That’s what I decided a long time ago.” I have remembered this concluding line of a conversation between Nicolas Cage and himself (when he played the twin writer brothers in the 2002 movie “Adaptation”) for over five years. I have many times thought back on it [...]

When it comes to resolutions, think small and work to remain consistent.  Someone told me a long time ago that if you can change any area of your life by a consistent five percent, the effects will be remarkable.   The truth of this is mirrored in the reality of global warming.   Even changes of a [...]

Every now and again we are given the gift of true presence. Usually it is when we are faced with the stark reality of life ending, whether it is through the death of someone or something beloved. The details that we often think of as life itself, fall away and the mystery of our frail [...]

Language is the metaphor we use to communicate our deepest feelings.  A couple’s sexuality is the most profound vehicle of communication of all.  The words we use and our physical language of love define our love experience. Penetration is the word often used to describe the culminating act of sexuality. It’s a word I often [...]

“Gratitude is the heart’s memory.”  French proverb I have generally not been a sports fan in life, but living with my husband for over 20 years and raising two sons has trained me in the importance of “the game”.  Tonight we shared a real loss as we watched the dreams of our star quarterback slip [...]

My thoughts and prayers go out to all those who have lost their homes in the recent wildfires of Southern CA.  News reports are saying an estimate of $1 billion in property damages and there is the threat that the main power lines that connect these counties to the main electrical grid could be destroyed!  I can’t imagine [...]

…You see things as you are.”   This quote from the Talmud reflects truly how we live.  Our filters of life events are always clouded by how we feel, what we are thinking, how we are judging in that moment.   What is the objective view?  We use scientific models of double blind studies as a [...]